Experiencing Motherhood!! Women have been put on line of fire!

Motherhood seemed to me like any other responsibility that we come across in life. For the first time whenever we encounter a change in life, it seems difficult and with passage of time we get used to it and it becomes way of life. For kids, first day of school, leaving parents for first time for going to school, first time exams, first board exams, first day of new job, getting married all these challenges look as big as mountain for everyone who faces it. However, within few days, everyone gets so much engrossed in these major changes in life…that they completely forget challenging aspect and start enjoying it.

Indian kids are used to hearing this very often by parents that they were amongst the most difficult kids to raise….and we are like “yeah…ok” everyone says that. Our mother would keep narrating stories as to what all she has gone through for us to see this brightened day…and again the same attitude we throw towards them is.. “yeah..big deal..all parents do..it…and so did you”. Some kids are vocal to express it bluntly and others might not say but that’s what they think.

Similar was my life until I got married with “Yeah..ok” kind of attitude. Being a very studious child, I never was vocal with this expression but yes…there is no denial similar were my thoughts whenever my mother used to share stories about her life post marriage and raising us as kids. Soon realty struck my life when I got married and I started relating to few of her stories and advices in context to married life. My mother had changed her role from being a mother to a friend as soon as I entered my adolescent age. She somehow made a point to groom me for life after marriage with stories and experiences which changed my thought process slightly with passage of time and prepared me for my future.

Life has been good to me post marriage, some lessons taught by mother are proving to be very helpful some are being taught by life itself. Soon after few months, we got to know we are expecting a baby. The news in itself had spread happiness in our both families, we too were excited to be parents and thought it was just the right time considering my biological clock was ticking faster.

Little did I know its going to be another roller coaster ride but a little tougher than those I have faced at different stages of life. Beginning with happiness, it soon changed to morning sickness which further changed to feeling nausea all the time. With extremely supportive husband, I started sailing smoothly except for the increasing health challenges that I encountered on daily basis. Morning sickness started taking toll on me with passage of time it was no where showing signs of reducing but headaches, backaches, mood swings started adding to it. Somewhere that was the time, as soon I saw a women holding a child or handling two kids , made her nothing less than Jhansi ki Rani for me. All those experiences mom had ever shared with me were coming to reality. But it was just a beginning, much more was yet to come.

Being an optimist, I am reckoning on the saying “All’s well that ends well”.